The village we build: Motherhood support and identity with Kristy Melmed

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In this episode, I’m joined by Kristy Melmed, the woman behind Brave Mamas and a fierce advocate for real, grounded support for mothers. Kristy brings the kind of honesty that makes you exhale. We talked about the messy middle of motherhood, the moments that break us open, and the kind of community that helps us rise again.

Kristy didn’t step into this work from theory, she lived it. After postpartum depression, anxiety, and the quiet rage and overwhelm so many mothers know but rarely name, she found herself isolated and questioning whether she was meant for motherhood at all. A WhatsApp support group opened her eyes to the power and pitfalls of mom communities, and ultimately pushed her to create something new: a psychologically safe space for mothers to be seen, heard, and resourced.
We explored what mothers really need, not advice, not perfection, but belonging, shared wisdom, and someone to witness them in their becoming. Kristy speaks candidly about resentment, the default parent load, the courage it takes to ask for help, and how brave it is simply to show up as a mother in a world that still expects us to do it all, quietly and alone.

This conversation is a reminder that mothers don’t need to earn support, they deserve it. And when women gather, reflect, and hold each other with care, they don’t just survive motherhood, they rise inside of it.

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5 Nov English Explicit South Africa Self-Improvement · Relationships

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