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Infidelity Distinguishing the Difference Between Forgiveness and Reconciliation

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Is there a difference between forgiveness and reconciliation in a case of marital infidelity? Over a year ago, I discovered that my husband had resumed an emotional affair with a good friend of mine. Altogether, the two episodes covered a span of nearly ten years. After I confronted him for the second time, he wept and said he was very sorry. He has assured me – and I think he is sincere – that the relationship has ended. I honestly believe in my heart that I have forgiven my husband, but in spite of this I have had a hard time trusting him or feeling any affection for him. This upsets him. He says that it should be enough for me to know that the affair is over and that he has promised never to be unfaithful again. Even our counselor has said that my feelings are evidence that I haven't forgiven my husband. I'm hurt and confused. Can you help me?
17 Aug 2020 6PM English South Africa Society & Culture · Religion & Spirituality

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