"Relationships are an art, a science and a practice." Shelley Lewin

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Sean Loots speaks with author and relationship coach, Shelley Lewin.

Shelley is a certified SACAP counselor, international coach federation member, and accredited professional certified coach.
She found her career after her fiancé left her.

When Shelley realized that almost all of her relationships were unfulfilling, she came to conclusion that she was the common denominator.

Today Shelly councils couples and colleagues to healthy, rewarding relationships through "art, science and practice."

We discuss her book Uncomplicated Love, the ongoing process of self-worth and self-acceptance and its impact on building healthy relationships, and Shelley reveals Sean's Attachment Style Survey results.

Main Topics Discussed Include:
* Developing a Healthy Relationship with Ourselves
* Understanding Different Types of Relationships
* Power Dynamics and Empowerment in Relationships
* The Foundation of a Good Relationship
* Unraveling Perspectives and Changing Behaviors
* Compatibility, Attachment Styles, and Partnership in Relationships
* The Influence of Core Beliefs on Attachment Styles
* Challenging Common Narratives in Relationships
* The Importance of Vulnerability in Intimacy
* Understanding and Shifting Attachment Styles
* Building Awareness, Making Choices, and Practicing for Mastery

Resources:
Shelley Lewin (The Relationship Architect Coaching and Education)
Website: https://tracoaching.com/

Attachment Styles and Close Relationship Survey:
http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Book Orders:
Uncomplicated Love in South Africa:
https://tracoaching.com/product/uncomplicated-love/

Uncomplicated Love internationally:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Uncomplicated-Love-step-step-relationship/dp/1991220510/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1689240030&sr=8-1
19 Jul 2023 English South Africa Self-Improvement · Personal Journals

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