Confessions: Can you buy your ex a Mother's Day gift?

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Stacey and J Sbu received the following confession, which started tearing them apart!

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"With Mother’s Day this weekend we need some help with a confession from one of our listeners:

I’m a co-parent, and I’m conflicted about Mother’s Day.
I’ll be honest I’m not sure what the “right” thing to do is anymore.
We have been separated for years now, and our child is in their teens. Last year, I sent flowers to my ex from our child. It’s something I’ve always seen done in my family the kids give their mom flowers, even if someone else helps make it happen. I thought I was just continuing that tradition, showing our child what appreciation looks like.

But now I’m wondering: is it still appropriate?

My ex doesn’t expect it, and they don’t do anything for me on Father’s Day, which is okay I’m not keeping score. But I do wonder if it’s overstepping, like I’m forcing my family’s values onto a situation that’s changed. I’m not trying to send mixed signals or stir up old feelings; I just want our child to grow up seeing that honouring your parent, even in small ways, matters.

Still, I keep asking myself: Is this a kind gesture or could it come across as something else? Please help co-parent Dad"

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12 May 2025 English South Africa Society & Culture · Personal Journals

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