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What Makes a Strong Marriage? (with Gerda de Sousa)

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You know, I’m always talking about dating and how messy it is, and love — and how messy that is too. But really, there’s also a silver lining. And that, of course, is marriage.
Someone I really look up to — who’s done really well at this marriage thing — is Jacaranda FM colleague, Gerda de Sousa. I want to figure out: how does she do it?
It’s been many years, they’re still very much in love, they’ve got a kid… I just want to know how.
Because sometimes, you’ve got to learn from the people who are in the trenches.
(Not that marriage is a trench. Anyway, moving on.)

In this episode:

00:00 Welcome to Love, Dating and Chaos
00:22 Introducing Gerda de Sousa
00:47 The tweezer trick
01:24 Marriage tricks and solutions
02:31 Tony's hidden vacuum cleaner
03:45 Marriage realities and reflections
03:55 Philicity's marriage story
05:10 The amicable divorce
05:59 The challenges of marriage and parenthood
07:44 The importance of familiarity in marriage
10:59 The beginning of Philicity and Tony's relationship
14:58 The wedding and family dynamics
20:09 Philicity's reflections on motherhood
21:40 The impact of parenthood on relationships
23:33 Philicity's personal growth and dating advice
25:52 Navigating love and loneliness
27:42 Challenges of modern parenting
29:49 Marriage: the good, the bad, and the funny
36:55 Finding the right partner
45:10 The importance of financial discussions
46:33 Final thoughts and gratitude
19 Jun English South Africa Relationships · Comedy

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