Episode 9 - Sharon Brighton

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How does a lawyer stay human in high-stakes dealmaking? Sharon Brighton reflects on 15 years at Standard Bank, the importance of failure, and how to redefine work-life balance. From mentoring future leaders to fighting for financial inclusion, she’s proof that leadership is as much about heart as it is about hustle.

Get it all in episode 9 of the Why She Leads’ Podcast.
16 Jul English South Africa Business · Investing

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00:10 Hello and welcome to Why She Leads, a podcast by Standard Bank CIB.
00:14 My name is Nzinga Qunta,
00:16 and I'm so privileged to be hosting discussions with powerful dealmakers
00:20 inside Standard Bank CIB.
00:22 Now, when we're having these conversations, we're trying to find out
00:25 how these women got into the positions that they occupy,
00:28 tips that they can share with us
00:30 obstacles they've overcome, and whether or not they've managed to find
00:33 that very elusive balance between their work and personal life.
00:38 Joining me today, Sharon Brighton, the Head of Legal Enablement
00:42 at Standard Bank, CIB.
00:44 Sharon, thanks so much for your time on Why She Leads today,
00:46 really looking forward to our conversation.
00:48 How would you introduce yourself to someone who doesn't know you?
00:51 I'm deeply passionate.
00:54 When I think of Standard Bank
00:55 and I think of we believe in here, Africa is our home, we drive her growth,
01:00 it really is something that talks to me.
01:02 I'm a deeply purposeful person,
01:06 and that is what really drives me every day.
01:09 I wake up every morning,
01:11 really feeling privileged to be part of this organisation.
01:14 Fantastic. Just tell me a little bit about your upbringing.
01:16 I know you’re a Jo’burg girl through and through.
01:18 Yes, so I grew up in Jo'burg,
01:21 I don't tell many people this, I was born in Springs.
01:23 Ha,ha.. born in Springs.
01:27 So I grew up in the East Rand.
01:30 I grew up in a very sort of, let's call it traditional
01:33 sort of setting, middle class family.
01:36 Both my parents worked.
01:37 I suppose the one thing that I think about when I think of my childhood is
01:42 my parents were very purposeful about my education,
01:45 so they spent many hours
01:49 and dedicated a lot of time taking me to all different
01:52 types of places, giving me the most incredible opportunities,
01:55 and I'm so deeply grateful for that.
01:58 And how do you think how you grew up, your parents
02:01 working, impacted your career path, what you decided to study?
02:07 So because my parents were so purposeful about my education
02:10 and because it didn't really matter to them what I did,
02:14 I think because it was really self-sufficiency,
02:17 independence, passion that they wanted from me,
02:21 that has put me in good stead for whatever I've chosen in my life.
02:27 Honestly, from a very young girl, I wanted to be a lawyer.
02:30 I don't really remember never wanting to be a lawyer.
02:33 I even looked at my school book a couple of months ago,
02:36 and you know, when they say, ‘What do you want to be?’
02:39 and it said a corporate lawyer, and I'm living the dream.
02:43 So, and I feel really deeply grateful and privileged to be in the position
02:48 that I am. Yeah.
02:49 Both my parents worked extremely hard, my dad’s 74 and still works.
02:53 My mom had a very successful career in a corporate for 35 years.
02:58 They're the most inspiring people I know.
03:00 I'm really grateful to have them
03:01 as people that I look up to every day and want to be just like them.
03:05 Mmm...
03:06 Who else inspires you in your professional life?
03:10 I've been at the bank for 15 years,
03:12 and I've been so blessed
03:14 to have such incredible people that have guided me along the way.
03:19 When, you know, when preparing for this today,
03:23 they asked, who was your mentor?
03:24 And I actually don't have a mentor. I actually have
03:28 a board of directors who I tap into.
03:31 And, you know, some of it is technical, so I feel that
03:35 I've got people that I can talk to technically about things.
03:39 I've got people on my board of directors who challenge me,
03:43 and sometimes I don't like the conversation in that moment
03:47 I feel uncomfortable, but actually they're there to grow me.
03:50 I've got people that will always be my cheerleaders,
03:52 and you need those in your board of directors as well.
03:55 I really do feel that they have created
03:59 such an amazing opportunity for me to go forward in this organisation.
04:04 You know, when we were looking for people to speak about you,
04:09 there were so many people that responded, we had to whittle it down,
04:13 and so I love that you said there's a board of directors, so I'd like to read...
04:18 Oh no, you’ll make me cry.
04:20 I mean, we don't mind crying,
04:21 there's tissues somewhere here.
04:23 Clive Laburn, first has a quote and he says,
04:27 ‘Don't need the space between who you are and who you want to be,
04:31 terrify you’.
04:33 That's something that he quoted and he had this to say about you.
04:37 Sharon is inspirational.
04:40 Besides being a warm and bubbly family lady and good friend,
04:43 she is a very capable and ambitious legal professional,
04:47 and she manages to juggle it all while making work fun.
04:51 She's genuine.
04:51 And what you see is what you get.
04:54 I was surprised when she first reached out to me for advice on her career path,
04:58 and perhaps she was surprised that I was not trying to get her to stay in risk.
05:02 But try to be as open minded about possibilities and opportunities
05:05 for her as possible while debating the merits of staying or moving.
05:10 In my own teams
05:11 I've got used to some people moving on and finding
05:14 what they are really passionate about.
05:15 And so I try and see it from their view and maybe just help them test their own
05:19 thinking in their pathway.
05:21 All the credit of what she has achieved
05:23 is due to her as a result and nothing I have done.
05:27 She has been brave enough to make switches when she has run out of road
05:30 and deal with change but always wanting to make a difference and influence.
05:35 She's certainly one of the most impressive
05:38 female leaders we are lucky enough to have in the bank.
05:41 I chose the quote which I took off the net because it ties into our chats over time
05:46 and the courage she has to make her own way forward.
05:50 Sho! That's beautiful.
05:52 I actually feel very emotional by that.
05:53 But, he's a great guy and he's actually one of those people
05:57 when I when I speak about
05:59 how he challenges, he's someone who's challenged me,
06:01 who's made me think differently about
06:04 what to do, because it's easy sometimes
06:06 to go down a traditional path.
06:09 And he's really made me think, Want do you want get out of this?
06:13 How do you see this for yourself?
06:15 And it's rare to have
06:19 that kind of quality in a person who actually
06:21 is selfless in that moment and goes, this actually not about me,
06:25 this is about you, and what do you want to do?
06:26 Okay,
06:27 let's listen to another... Theres another one?
06:30 Well you did say you've got a board of directors.
06:32 I do have a board of directors. Okay.
06:34 This is from Marita Koti.
06:36 I wish I could remember the first time I met Sharon
06:39 sadly I dont,
06:41 but Im pretty sure I was left thinking who is that lady?
06:46 The word that I could use to describe Sharon is passion.
06:56 and its just that passion that you meet
07:00 when you have your initial interactions with Sharon,
07:03 that you just need to embrace
07:08 Sharon takes her passion and she is getting stuff done
07:13 Shes one of the colleagues that I hold in very high regard.
07:18 because of her effectiveness and her ability to really and truly get stuff done.
07:24 and thats been most evident recently in her time having taken on the enablement role
07:32 Shes only been in that role for a short period of time
07:35 and she’s really done a phenomenal job of
07:39 establishing important steps towards building a profile
07:44 for the CIB legal team in various parts of CIB
07:49 which we hadn’t touched on before
07:53 and it’s just really exciting to see how this could develop
07:58 and you know often, from time to time I’ll have an interaction with Sharon
08:04 and I’ll be like, Wait is that your job?
08:09 and she’ll always say Yes absolutely.
08:12 and thats just because Sharon has that attitude
08:15 of whatever it is that is needed or has to get done
08:18 I can handle it and I will do it.
08:21 And I really admire that in Sharon and I wish her the best in her role.
08:25 Sho! You really are going to make me cry.
08:29 Marita is very special,
08:30 I mean, I'm very fortunate because I actually used to report to Marita,
08:34 and Marita, as you heard,
08:38 I mean, how eloquent is that woman?
08:39 she's exceptional, but she just gives really great advice.
08:44 I think what I... when I heard her say passion,
08:49 I immediately was drawn to my parents
08:50 because that's exactly what they wanted for me.
08:53 They wanted me to be independent, self-sufficient and passionate.
08:56 And the fact that someone else recognises that in you
08:59 kind of makes me think I've done, I've done my job
09:02 and that I'm living actually the dream of my parents and the dream of myself,
09:06 and that that feels immensely, overwhelmingly amazing.
09:20 It's incredible to be acknowledged for what you hope for yourself,
09:25 what your parents hope for you.
09:27 Absolutely.
09:29 It really is. It's
09:32 there's actually no words to really describe what it feels like to
09:35 to have someone see you in the way that you want to show up.
09:39 Mmm, you've come so far in your career,
09:43 if you had to speak to the version of you
09:46 that was still young and starting out, What would you say?
09:49 I would tell my younger self, slow down, everything comes to you
09:53 for those who wait, and never underestimate hard work.
09:57 But I wouldn't
09:58 tell my younger self anything further because I needed to make mistakes.
10:01 I've made some pretty big mistakes,
10:03 where I've gone.
10:06 This is, you know, life changing,
10:07 this is terrible.
10:09 I've let myself down, I've let my family down, this organisation down, whatever.
10:14 But I'll never forget it, will I?
10:15 What's the importance of making those kind of mistakes?
10:19 And if someone is watching who's building their career
10:23 and is making those mistakes, which they feel are fatal,
10:27 or harmful to their career, What do they need to remember?
10:30 It's about having the humility to say, I've made a mistake.
10:34 It's about owning it and being mindful
10:38 around what you need to do not to do that further.
10:41 I mean,
10:43 or not to do that again in the future.
10:46 And so it's got a little bit to do with like, don't be so hard on yourself,
10:50 but also own it, like
10:52 show up in a way that is authentic,
10:56 show up in a way that people know that you you know,
11:00 that you have this element to you that is vulnerable.
11:03 I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
11:05 But it's about how you get out of it.
11:06 Be kind to yourself in that moment of getting out of it and,
11:10 and own what you need to and just work damn hard next time
11:15 and learn from it.
11:17 And so at the level that you operate in, can you give us insight
11:20 into some of these high level deals that you've participated in?
11:25 that pressure,
11:26 and then just saying, I'm going to get through.
11:27 obviously we don’t want all the details.
11:30 So I think inherently you're not going to meet many lawyers
11:37 that are not fired by that real pressure
11:40 of getting a deal over the line, particularly in Standard Bank.
11:44 I mean, I look at my legal colleagues, we're completely driven
11:47 to get the best for our for our clients.
11:50 It's just this inherent nature of who we are,
11:52 and certainly I resonate with that.
11:55 When I go into a transaction and maybe I'm fortunate
11:59 because I look at it differently.
12:01 I always love the back story of our clients.
12:04 I was in real estate for seven years.
12:06 I was Head of Real Estate, Legal for seven years for Standard Bank,
12:11 and I felt so immensely proud when I walked into
12:15 an office block that we had just built for our clients
12:18 and how proud that they were to show me around.
12:22 One of my favourite deals that I've ever done, or my favourite transactions
12:26 was the deal for M-KOPA and why it really resonated with me is,
12:31 if I think of myself as a woman in the financial industry and I think
12:36 and then I put the layer and context of Africa on it, you know, women
12:41 financial inclusion for women is, it's just,
12:44 we're at infancy stages.
12:46 And, you know, why I was so inspired with M-KOPA is
12:51 you know, part of the funding that we helped with,
12:55 along with other lenders, was really financial inclusion for women.
13:00 And people go, what does that really mean?
13:02 Well, it's about actually empowering, about giving a woman a quality smartphone
13:06 that she's able to afford and she's able to, you know, buy the necessary
13:12 kind of ingredients for her shop in an informal market to sell sandwiches
13:17 or porridge or soup or, you know, there was one story
13:22 where it was a hairdresser who started to
13:26 record content on Instagram and she got more clients as a result.
13:30 Those kind of things drive me to do those deals.
13:33 Those are the kind of deals that I stayed up all night to do,
13:37 and it's just the most amazing feeling when it closes.
13:40 I can't explain it, it's just, it's just great.
13:43 What are you doing when you're not sleeping?
13:45 in those hours where everyone is staying awake
13:49 trying to get the deal over the line?
13:50 I love those moments because we are all
13:54 so highly connected in that moment to get it over the line.
13:57 There's no like, Oh, we waiting for someone to do this or,
14:01 Oh, you know, it's stuck in credit or, Oh, we need...
14:05 There's none of that.
14:06 There's no... everyone is so focused and purposeful
14:10 in getting it over the line, that's why I say
14:12 it doesn't feel like it's a job in that moment.
14:14 it doesn't feel like it's a job in that moment.
14:17 It feels like this is kind of the reason we're here.
14:23 Amazing.
14:23 Yeah. Amazing. Thank you.
14:26 And then you speaking about the importance of transformation and inclusion.
14:30 Yes.
14:30 But it's been said that if women are included
14:34 financially in Africa, our GDP collectively would increase
14:38 by between 5 and 15%, just by making sure
14:41 that women are participating, nothing, nothing too much,
14:44 just making sure that more women are in that space.
14:47 And it's important, I guess, on an individual basis as well, to make sure
14:50 that you're bringing women into the space,
14:53 100%
14:53 and empowering and mentoring them.
14:55 Tell me about what you do?
14:57 I am very proud to say
14:58 when I was in real estate legal, all of the lawyers were female
15:01 and actually the leadership of Real Estate at one particular time,
15:05 the head of Credit, the head of Legal, the head of Compliance,
15:08 the head of the business were all female.
15:10 I just think that's awesome. What we need to continue to do
15:14 is ensure that we bring more women into our workforce.
15:20 They bring a different perspective.
15:22 They bring a diversity that we can't ever ignore,
15:28 and yeah, I feel really very proud of CIB Legal
15:34 specifically and the transformation we've made from a female perspective.
15:38 Okay.
15:40 I have a letter from your mentee.
15:45 It's Sharon Baddoo.
15:47 Yes, my namesake, we’re both Sharon’s, that's so cool.
15:50 Dear Sharon, thank you for being an amazing mentor to me.
15:54 I'm genuinely grateful for all the advice and wisdom
15:57 you have generously shared and continued to share with me.
16:00 Your continuous guidance
16:01 and support have been instrumental in my career and personal growth.
16:05 You show faith in me even when I don't.
16:09 Your knack for seeing the bright side of things is remarkable,
16:12 enviable, and worth emulating.
16:15 You never let the perfect get in the way of the good
16:19 you have held my hand and led me into rooms.
16:21 Rooms never have considered stepping into and being one of my biggest cheerleaders.
16:27 You make time to actively listen to me, even when you have so much to deal with
16:31 and are keen to share your experience and advice.
16:33 I often wonder how you do it.
16:36 You epitomise walking the talk of being human first.
16:40 You are an inspiration to me
16:41 and have left an indelible mark in my life, in my career.
16:45 Thanks to you, I'm a better version of myself.
16:48 Yeah.
16:48 Dankie, oyiwaladon, meaning
16:51 thank you in Ga, my native dialect.
16:54 That is so special.
16:57 So Sharon
17:00 is a colleague.
17:00 So she's a legal colleague of mine.
17:05 We, I think, started as a friendship really, and
17:08 I take the role of mentor quite seriously. It's not just for me about,
17:13 Oh, please put a meeting in my diary when we meet once a month.
17:15 To me, it's a very purposeful relationship around, what do you want
17:19
17:21 And what do I want to get out of it as well?
17:23 Because it's I do believe it's a two way street,
17:24 despite the fact that I'm a mentor,
17:26 what I want to do is, I don't want to waste her time
17:29 and I don't want her time to feel wasted either,
17:32 and I don't want to waste my time I suppose.
17:35 So what I love about how Sharon has showed up
17:38 in these sessions and and conversations I've had with her
17:42 is that she's very deliberate about, ‘This is what I'm struggling with.
17:46 This is how I have thought about it.’
17:49 So she hasn't just gone. This is what I'm struggling with. Help me.
17:52 She's gone. ‘This is what I'm struggling with.
17:54 This is how I think I'm thinking of doing it.
17:56 What would you... how would you do this or
17:59 how would you think I should potentially frame it? or whatever the case is.’
18:03 And for that, I'm really grateful
18:04 because it really is a relationship that needs to be nurtured.
18:08 And I'm so proud of her.
18:10 Ah, she's great.
18:11 I'm, I'm very grateful to have her in my life.
18:14 I've heard this thing,
18:16 I don't know if it's true so you need to clear it up for me,
18:19 that it's easier to be in-house Legal
18:21 than be in a firm.
18:24 The pressures are different.
18:25 So it's not that we work
18:28 less hours or more hours,
18:31 depending on whether you're in-house or in a firm.
18:36 It's a different kind of pressure.
18:37 So I think the pressures are, we're not
18:41 we're not chasing a timesheet, in the bank.
18:44 I'm not filling in a timesheet and trying to meet a target.
18:49 What happens in Practice, I think is more that it's very transactional based.
18:54 And so if you come into the bank
18:56 thinking that all I'm going to be doing is transactions,
19:01 I think you might struggle a little bit because there's a lot more that’s
19:04 expected of you.
19:05 But when I say a lot more is expected of you, it's not like this overwhelmingly...
19:09 It's that you want to be part of this journey.
19:12 So it's not that we work less hours
19:15 or that the pressure is less,
19:18 it's that it's different.
19:20 How do you balance being a parent,
19:23 daughter, wife,
19:26 mom,
19:27 big deal banker,
19:29 Lawyer?
19:31 Yeah, so it's a combination of a couple of things.
19:35 So I kept on chasing this elusive balance, like I have to have balance in my life.
19:40 I have to do this.
19:41 I have to run, I have to cook, I have to whatever.
19:45 And I was very fortunate that I went to a life coach a couple of years ago.
19:48 She's a fantastic person who gave me a lot of insights,
19:53 and she said, “Well, instead of looking at it like it's
19:57 a real balancing act, like, here's your family and here's your work,
20:01 why don't you kind of look at your life as a big, like a cake, or a wheel,
20:08 And that
20:09 there are certain days where the segments of the cake
20:11 for your family are going to be a little bit smaller,
20:13 and the segments for work are going to be a bit bigger.
20:16 And the next day, actually a new cake is there and the segment for your family
20:20 is going to be bigger than the segment for business...”
20:22 Somehow that resonates with me better,
20:24 but I think really
20:28 and truly, I'm very fortunate in that my husband,
20:35 he certainly was never going
20:38 to get a traditional wife out of me and that he knew from the get go.
20:43 And so I have a very, very important
20:47 infrastructure around me.
20:49 And part of that infrastructure is really him.
20:52 I mean, he, you know, really
20:55 is just such a supportive person who I am so grateful to have in my life.
21:00 But over and above that, we have set up our lives
21:04 to have an infrastructure that makes me feel comfortable.
21:06 It's changed over the years.
21:08 You know, when my kids were smaller and, you know, my son was very ill
21:12 when he was first born, we needed actual real care around him,
21:17 and so we had an infrastructure that supported that,
21:19 whilst I still was able to work and
21:23 I didn't feel, I need to be there, but then I'm neglecting work.
21:27 It felt like my pie on certain days
21:32 had to be segmented in a particular way.
21:34 And I think that's how it's worked for me.
21:38 Don't always get it right, and I think we've got to be fair on ourselves,
21:43 but for the most part I think I get there.
21:47 What's the most important thing you've learned in your journey so far?
21:53 You can't win every battle.
21:57 Yeah.
21:59 I think when you're younger, you want to fight everything, and fight
22:02 I don't mean in a conflict way.
22:06 It's that same thing about always you getting...
22:09 you just want to get to the next thing.
22:11 you just want to get to the next thing.
22:11 I think it's about
22:14 letting go of some things that are not important.
22:17 What is the thing that you you need to sustain your own
22:21 love and appreciation for yourself and your own self-worth?
22:26 And then what,
22:27 what matters to you and your family or whatever is important to you?
22:31 It doesn't necessarily have to be family.
22:33 In my case, it is.
22:34 Don't sweat the small stuff, man.
22:37 It’s a really simple lesson,
22:40 . but it really is that.
22:42 Thank you so much for your time today,
22:43 Thank you so much.
22:44 I feel like I've got so much insight into the legal sector at
22:48 Standard Bank CIB, the challenges that you've overcome, the mistakes that you've made,
22:52 but most importantly, just life lessons on how to keep going
22:57 inside and outside the boardroom. Thank you.
22:59 Thank you so much. Really appreciate it.

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